Never the same

My friend, colleague, and supervisor, Donna Schuurman, wrote a book called Never the Same. I couldn't agree with her more. Once a person has entered our lives, they change it, and once a person leaves our life, in whatever way they exit be it death, divorce, or simply fading away, they change it as well. We are transformed by who and who isn't in our lives and that transformation is a constant, meaning we are continually be transformed by our losses. We will never be the same, nor will we be the person were heading to become, instead now we are on a different life course to be someone altogether new. Thus we must recognize that not only do we grieve the loss of our loved one, we also grieve the loss of ourselves-who we were and who were going to be -an perhaps that is just one of the hardest aspects of grief to acknowledge.